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What You Need To Know About Narcissists: Why Cartwheels In Bed & Circusworthy Stunts Won’t Matter
Do you suspect your partner is cheating, but no matter how hard you try, you can't prove it? Does he lie frequently, and call you crazy if you point out discrepancies in his stories? Is she loving and affectionate in front of others, but cruel to you behind closed doors?
Does he start arguments over trivial things, but refuse to compromise or find a peaceful resolution? Do your car keys and other personal belongings keep disappearing even though you know where you put them? Does she say she loves you, but act like she hates you? Does he call you vile names and accuse you of doing horrible things one minute, and act like nothing happened the next?
If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, these are common occurrences, and they're intentional. Your partner deliberately start arguments, provokes jealousy, and engages in covert sabotage to make you miserable, erode your confidence, and destroy your self-esteem. But good luck trying to prove it because narcissists never take responsibility for their actions.
They're predators who trick you into falling in love by pretending to be your soulmate. Being in love makes you vulnerable, and therefore, easier to control. So they claim to have the same hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes, and beliefs to quickly form a bond of familiarity and trust.
You'll be swept off your feet by their charm, never suspecting that they're a wolf in sheep's clothing, intent on causing you harm. While you're happily planning a future with the person of your dreams, they're planning ways to destroy you, cheating with multiple partners, and starting smear campaigns against you.
Narcissists are generally quite attractive and charismatic, easily making you feel like the most special person on the planet. At first, you'll be happier than you've ever been. They know what to say to make you feel attractive, loved, and happy. You won't see what's coming, and the devastation will be enormous. The person of your dreams is really your worst nightmare.
The best way to protect ourselves from these predators is with knowledge. We must know our enemies in order to defeat them. In this book, you'll learn:
-What drives a narcissist to destroy the people who love them.
-Warning signs that someone is a narcissist
-Common behavior patterns and the motives behind the actions.
-The stages of a narcissistic relationship and what to expect during each phase.
-Manipulation techniques used to brainwash victims.
-How narcissists abuse people, and the consequences for victims.
Does he start arguments over trivial things, but refuse to compromise or find a peaceful resolution? Do your car keys and other personal belongings keep disappearing even though you know where you put them? Does she say she loves you, but act like she hates you? Does he call you vile names and accuse you of doing horrible things one minute, and act like nothing happened the next?
If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, these are common occurrences, and they're intentional. Your partner deliberately start arguments, provokes jealousy, and engages in covert sabotage to make you miserable, erode your confidence, and destroy your self-esteem. But good luck trying to prove it because narcissists never take responsibility for their actions.
They're predators who trick you into falling in love by pretending to be your soulmate. Being in love makes you vulnerable, and therefore, easier to control. So they claim to have the same hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes, and beliefs to quickly form a bond of familiarity and trust.
You'll be swept off your feet by their charm, never suspecting that they're a wolf in sheep's clothing, intent on causing you harm. While you're happily planning a future with the person of your dreams, they're planning ways to destroy you, cheating with multiple partners, and starting smear campaigns against you.
Narcissists are generally quite attractive and charismatic, easily making you feel like the most special person on the planet. At first, you'll be happier than you've ever been. They know what to say to make you feel attractive, loved, and happy. You won't see what's coming, and the devastation will be enormous. The person of your dreams is really your worst nightmare.
The best way to protect ourselves from these predators is with knowledge. We must know our enemies in order to defeat them. In this book, you'll learn:
-What drives a narcissist to destroy the people who love them.
-Warning signs that someone is a narcissist
-Common behavior patterns and the motives behind the actions.
-The stages of a narcissistic relationship and what to expect during each phase.
-Manipulation techniques used to brainwash victims.
-How narcissists abuse people, and the consequences for victims.
163 pages, ebook
Published March 16, 20
About the author
Serena Prince
2 books5 followersWhen she’s not writing, Serena Prince is a Life Coach, specializing in recovery from narcissistic abuse. She received international recognition for her work with victims as the Founder of Global Advocates for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse.
Currently working on her next book, Serena lives in Louisiana with her son, Colton.
Currently working on her next book, Serena lives in Louisiana with her son, Colton.
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October 18, 2020
What You Need To Know About Narcissists is the first book that I have read by the author Serena Prince. Before reading this book I wasn't aware about the term Narcissists. This book will make you aware about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Abuse. This is the story of Serena who discovered that her husband is Narcissists. She is also the mother of an autistic son Colton.
Whatever her husband did had a bad impact on Colton as he watched his mother suffering from abuse by his own father. If you are in a relationship with a Narcissists, he will drag you through different stages of it. This book has various questions based on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the book is actually a compilation of the questions answered by Serena on Quora.
Reading this book opened a different world in front of me that I didn't even know that it exists. I am glad that I came across this book. All the questions are well answered by Serena with detailed explanation. This book is rich in knowledge and author's experience. It was worth reading. I like to recommend it to everyone. Looking forward to read more books by Serena.
Whatever her husband did had a bad impact on Colton as he watched his mother suffering from abuse by his own father. If you are in a relationship with a Narcissists, he will drag you through different stages of it. This book has various questions based on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the book is actually a compilation of the questions answered by Serena on Quora.
Reading this book opened a different world in front of me that I didn't even know that it exists. I am glad that I came across this book. All the questions are well answered by Serena with detailed explanation. This book is rich in knowledge and author's experience. It was worth reading. I like to recommend it to everyone. Looking forward to read more books by Serena.
May 17, 2020
Wow! This queen can write a book! She touches on everything with vivid experience and words of wisdom.
For those seeking clarity in their own personal dark clouded abusings...this read is for you!
This lady deserves an award for helpful bookage EVER!!! 👑🥇🏆
For those seeking clarity in their own personal dark clouded abusings...this read is for you!
This lady deserves an award for helpful bookage EVER!!! 👑🥇🏆
May 25, 2020
She is amazing and very talented. So far im loving the book. Cant wait for the next one to be published. Keep up the great work Serena!
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May 17, 2021This was such an insightful read. I didn't know much about NPD or anything related to it and this book was my introduction to it. The author narrates her struggles with mainly her ex-husbands and the narcissists she has encountered in her life. The book is written in a question and answers format, which was incredibly easy to read and the style of writing was very accessible and clear.
I believe this would be a great handbook for pretty much everyone so they would be educated about narcissists, their methods, and the types of them. Thank you so much Serena for sharing your story, I'm sure it will help a lot of people out there.
I believe this would be a great handbook for pretty much everyone so they would be educated about narcissists, their methods, and the types of them. Thank you so much Serena for sharing your story, I'm sure it will help a lot of people out there.
August 27, 2021
What You Need to Know About Narcissists is a cry for help, an offer of assistance, and a description of an abusive relationship, all rolled into one book. The pain expressed by the author is real, tangible, and distressing. When an author's first sentence of a narrative of a past abusive, controlling relationship begins, "The last time my husband of 18 years tried to kill me..."there is little doubt about the direction of the book. Through an exchange of information site called Quora, author Prince has derived an amount of information about something called Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and through this book she has attempted to relate experiences and pass advice. The book is both informative and frighteningly unsettling.
Ms. Prince describes three types of narcissist - the exhibitionist, who is very open about his/her feelings of superiority; the covert/closet narcissist, still quite dangerous yet subtle, not overt; and finally the malignant, or toxic narcissist, who feels unconstrained in destroying you. Per the author, the relationship with a narcissist reaches three stages - idealization, the beginning where things seem fine; devaluation, where your partner starts tearing down both you and your relationship; and discard, where the partner has done his/her best to destroy you and has moved on.
I suppose we have all dealt with narcissists, to some degree. Mine seems to have married me in an effort to elevate social standing, gradually but inexorably tried to either devalue everything about me or eliminate from my life everything that seemed of value, then did her best to destroy me by separating me from our children and spreading lies in an effort to smear my reputation. The point Ms. Prince makes about past partners talking about you long after the relationship because they are trying to choreograph your behavior rang true when recently I visited our daughter, only to have her mother, 20 years after the divorce, doing her best to prevent the short exchange from happening. I would suggest that whoever reads What You Need to Know... will conjure up similar past relationships.
In my opinion, the book could be made better by reducing the spacing between lines, by eliminating some/all of the profanity, and by an author's approach which assumes no knowledge about NPD. Still, I would suggest that whoever reads this book will not forget it.
Ms. Prince describes three types of narcissist - the exhibitionist, who is very open about his/her feelings of superiority; the covert/closet narcissist, still quite dangerous yet subtle, not overt; and finally the malignant, or toxic narcissist, who feels unconstrained in destroying you. Per the author, the relationship with a narcissist reaches three stages - idealization, the beginning where things seem fine; devaluation, where your partner starts tearing down both you and your relationship; and discard, where the partner has done his/her best to destroy you and has moved on.
I suppose we have all dealt with narcissists, to some degree. Mine seems to have married me in an effort to elevate social standing, gradually but inexorably tried to either devalue everything about me or eliminate from my life everything that seemed of value, then did her best to destroy me by separating me from our children and spreading lies in an effort to smear my reputation. The point Ms. Prince makes about past partners talking about you long after the relationship because they are trying to choreograph your behavior rang true when recently I visited our daughter, only to have her mother, 20 years after the divorce, doing her best to prevent the short exchange from happening. I would suggest that whoever reads What You Need to Know... will conjure up similar past relationships.
In my opinion, the book could be made better by reducing the spacing between lines, by eliminating some/all of the profanity, and by an author's approach which assumes no knowledge about NPD. Still, I would suggest that whoever reads this book will not forget it.
August 26, 2021
This is an interesting account from a woman's personal experience with a Narcissist partner. I believe the author referenced working for a narcissist as well. I commend the bravery of this author describing in detail the abuses she suffered in her marriages and how she was able to pull herself out of those relationships and offer encouragement for others to get out of an abusive relationship. There is even an opportunity to support her go fund me in the book.
I would have enjoyed more research based references and information regarding Narcissism because it is considered a mental illness. When a writer talks about medical or scientific things in non-fiction I think it is responsible to use reliable resources for the reader. I expected to learn more about the personality disease but instead I learned a lot about signs of an abusive partner to avoid.
I don't know if it is fair to ask an abused person to offer compassion to their offender, but in the context of mental illness, the book felt very angry with a focus on the mental illness when in reality the focus should have been on the physical, emotional and mental abuse. There was one account in which her husband was breaking glass and intentionally putting it on the floor for her to step on. After reading that, it sounded like this husband was an evil person and nothing regarding a personality disorder was relevant.
I would have enjoyed this book as a story with a plot. Some of the book offered stories of situations and I would have enjoyed to hear how this relationship started and how it progressively became the violent terror the author described. It was hard to understand why this woman would be in a relationship like this for as long as she had because the husband character was described as a psychotic awful person the entire book. I would have liked to understand and relate to the woman in the story. To have experienced the positive that lead to the confusion and hurt of being in a selfish, abusive relationship. Through out the book I felt very sorry for the author but I did not have any understanding of the narcissist.
I would have enjoyed more research based references and information regarding Narcissism because it is considered a mental illness. When a writer talks about medical or scientific things in non-fiction I think it is responsible to use reliable resources for the reader. I expected to learn more about the personality disease but instead I learned a lot about signs of an abusive partner to avoid.
I don't know if it is fair to ask an abused person to offer compassion to their offender, but in the context of mental illness, the book felt very angry with a focus on the mental illness when in reality the focus should have been on the physical, emotional and mental abuse. There was one account in which her husband was breaking glass and intentionally putting it on the floor for her to step on. After reading that, it sounded like this husband was an evil person and nothing regarding a personality disorder was relevant.
I would have enjoyed this book as a story with a plot. Some of the book offered stories of situations and I would have enjoyed to hear how this relationship started and how it progressively became the violent terror the author described. It was hard to understand why this woman would be in a relationship like this for as long as she had because the husband character was described as a psychotic awful person the entire book. I would have liked to understand and relate to the woman in the story. To have experienced the positive that lead to the confusion and hurt of being in a selfish, abusive relationship. Through out the book I felt very sorry for the author but I did not have any understanding of the narcissist.
September 1, 2021
the reading inevitably made me revisiting the hell i'd been through. i'd dealt with some narcs, as well. in a friendship, in a relationship, even in a family. the damage is done. i've educated myself to be more aware of the narcs traits, the red flags, you name it.
most of the strings are gone. but through family, it's an on-going hell i think i have to deal with for the rest of my life.
having the narcs around used to make me think why crazy people keeps gravitating towards my life? my latest encounter with my ex boyfriend, a covert narc, even made me think that i've become a narc, as well. twas how damaged myself as a result of years of being lied to, gaslighted, projected, cheated on, and the list went on and on.
some part of the book were so intense i almost screamed bc hell they're too relatable. the damage caused by a narc is a strange concept for people who never been a victim. they might even see us as a crazy bitch bc the details sound unreal. inhumane. too monstrous.
i came to a realization on how NPD is quite commonly happened but idk why most of people are not aware of it. this book is indeed one of the enlightening sources for the awareness.
most of the strings are gone. but through family, it's an on-going hell i think i have to deal with for the rest of my life.
having the narcs around used to make me think why crazy people keeps gravitating towards my life? my latest encounter with my ex boyfriend, a covert narc, even made me think that i've become a narc, as well. twas how damaged myself as a result of years of being lied to, gaslighted, projected, cheated on, and the list went on and on.
some part of the book were so intense i almost screamed bc hell they're too relatable. the damage caused by a narc is a strange concept for people who never been a victim. they might even see us as a crazy bitch bc the details sound unreal. inhumane. too monstrous.
i came to a realization on how NPD is quite commonly happened but idk why most of people are not aware of it. this book is indeed one of the enlightening sources for the awareness.
October 27, 2021
While I totally empathize with the author and her account of her life living with her husband and surviving would make for a gripping survival story and motivation for victims of domestic violence and abuse, but being written with intention to help you know about a personality disorder, the book is completely off the mark.
Being a mental health worker myself I found the topic to be very causally approached and too much negativity and aggression directed towards the personality itself. Yes the author does mention her sources of information but not all are reliable medical sources. Also the author has no where mentioned receiving a professional training to be making some of the statements regarding the disorder and many of them are too superficial and generalized.
The book would have worked really well if it was designed as a survivor story rather than as something that educates about a condition.
Being a mental health worker myself I found the topic to be very causally approached and too much negativity and aggression directed towards the personality itself. Yes the author does mention her sources of information but not all are reliable medical sources. Also the author has no where mentioned receiving a professional training to be making some of the statements regarding the disorder and many of them are too superficial and generalized.
The book would have worked really well if it was designed as a survivor story rather than as something that educates about a condition.
November 5, 2021
Such a great experience! This book was recommended by Booktasters to read it and express my honest review!
I admit that this book was an open window for me to know more about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Abuse NPD.
I had little regular information about this type of disorder. The author wrote it in a simple informative way, she suffered from her ex-husband, and her son got affected. Narcissists always make you feel guilty and not enough and it is all your fault.
This how-to know them and deal with them. Not to mention that we all must have dealt with them and they also affected us.
You will definitely feel related.
Highly highly recommended.
I admit that this book was an open window for me to know more about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Abuse NPD.
I had little regular information about this type of disorder. The author wrote it in a simple informative way, she suffered from her ex-husband, and her son got affected. Narcissists always make you feel guilty and not enough and it is all your fault.
This how-to know them and deal with them. Not to mention that we all must have dealt with them and they also affected us.
You will definitely feel related.
Highly highly recommended.
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