Moving is right up there with death and taxes as a favorite passtime. A friend once told me that she had an entire page of her address book devoted to me. If you count local moves, I've loaded my stuff into a truck more than 20 times. I jump into a new community. Whether you are a vibrant fifty or sixty or a slower seventy or eighty, Fitting in After Fifty can be your personal and practical guide for making your own leap.
I enjoy meeting new people and never feel out of place, even if I don’t know a soul in a crowded room. Not everyone feels comfortable with strangers. Still, even introverts have to make their place in a new setting. You can think of Fitting in After Fifty as your self-help guide for getting around in a new town.
Why is this book called Fitting in After Fifty? Because, IMHO, it's easier when you're younger. You may still be in close contact with childhood, high school, or college friends and some may live near your new place. Your own kids get you involved with other families through their schools, sports, and hobbies. When you're starting or changing jobs, professional contacts can draw you into the world beyond work.
So, this book focuses on those of us who are more mature (or not) at roughly age fifty or older. Much of what is discussed would apply to relocators of any age.
A younger person might use some of the ideas to help parents settle into their retirement community, or assist a widowed parent or friend as she or he finds new activities in the town they already live in.
Whatever your purpose, Fitting in After Fifty can speed up your efforts to find friends and get to know a new community – or rediscover one you've lived in for a while.
The nine chapters each have a list of online resources or articles.
1. Reasons For the Move and Getting Started
2. Deciding How Involved to Want to Be
3. Getting to Know the Immediate Neighborhood or Complex
4. Beyond Your Street or Building
5. Deciding Whether to Volunteer
6. Making Friends or Dating in a New Place
7. Holidays: Do You Stay or Do You Go?
8. What About Major Life Changes?
9. Keeping Those New Friends
BIOGRAPHY Elaine L. Orr writes four mystery series, the thirteen-book Jolie Gentil cozy mystery series, the three-book River's Edge series, the three-book Logland series, and the four-book Family History Mystery series.
The Jolie Gentil series is set at the Jersey shore. Behind the Walls was a finalist for the 2014 Chanticleer Mystery and Mayhem Awards.
The first book in Elaine's River's Edge cozy mystery series, From Newsprint to Footprints, debuted in late fall 2015, followed by Demise of a Devious Neighbor. The latter was a Chanticleer finalist in 2017. The fictional South County sits along the Des Moines River in Southeast Iowa.
In 2016, Elaine issued Tip a Hat to Murder, first in the Logland mystery series. Set in small-town Illinois, its protagonist is a police chief rather than an amateur sleuth. The third book, Final Cycle, was published in June 2019.
Finally, a series set in her native Maryland! The Family History series in the Western Maryland mountains examines crimes of the past with a sleuth in the present. Add a ghost only Digger can see, and you get a great mix of humor and insight of the region.
Nonfiction includes Writing When Time is Scares -- and Getting the Work Published, and many family history books. In 2019, she published Fitting in After Fifty -- to Your New Town. The guide to breaking into a community at a 'mature' age is practical and adds a touch of humor.
Elaine also writes plays and novellas, including Falling Into Place and In the Shadow of Light. Biding Time was one of five finalists in the National Press Club's first fiction contest, in 1993, and her play, Permission to Hope, was part of the Bethesda, MD Plays in Progress series in 1989. The one-act, Common Ground, is a story of three couples planning big moves -- with a twist.
Elaine conducts presentations on electronic publishing and other writing-related topics. Nonfiction includes Words to Write By: Getting Your Thoughts on Paper and Writing in Retirement: Putting New Year’s Resolutions to Work. She also conducts online courses on writing and publishing on the TabletWise and Teachable platforms.
Thought her degrees are in government, Elaine studied writing at the University of Maryland, Georgetown University School of Continuing Education, the Writer's Center of Bethesda, Maryland, and the University of Iowa's Summer Writing Festival. A member of Sisters in Crime and the Indiana Writers’ Center, Elaine grew up in Maryland and moved to the Midwest in 1994.